A decade in lessons and realizations (2000-2019)
Love is not enough to make a relationship work.
Don’t stay in a relationship just because you crave the feeling of being loved.
Don’t just hand yourself out to anybody who is willing to take you.
Nobody gets to decide how you feel except yourself.
Feminism is not enough if it isn’t intersectional.
The patriarchy damages men, too. Deeply.
You cannot distinguish the patriarchy from racism, from homophobia, from transphobia, from ableism.
Relationships work when everybody involved works on the relationship.
Some people are just wrong, and that’s okay. It doesn’t need to be my job to correct them.
Boundaries are not mean, nor they make me bitchy or high-maintenance. They are necessary.
I would not be who I am today without my village.
We need to dream bigger.
Studying abroad was one of the best choices I ever made; I need to travel more.
It is best to be honest with myself and with others about my feelings.
I get antsy and frustrated when I feel trapped.
How others feel is not my responsibility.
Not all news, data, nor every headline is equally honest or true.
“Nice” people can still make poor decisions.
The key to financial peace is being completely happy with living with enough. And for many people, that means living below what you believe is your “means.”
Enough is far less than we all think it is.
Buying things will not make me happy, and buying more things is bad for the environment.
The accumulation of massive wealth without contribution to making the world a better place is unethical.
I deserve love and I deserve equality in all of my relationships.
People don’t know what you want or how you want to be treated unless you tell them.
It is okay to take a break from a relationship—any kind of relationship.
I am a powerful, strong, intelligent, and profoundly loving person.
I’m a pretty good writer.
If everything is a priority, nothing is a priority.
Debt is not an emergency.
Our oppression does not absolve us of our privileges, ignorance, or wrongdoings.
I have the ability to create multiple sources of income.
It is completely okay to simultaneously both love and care for people and to create space in relationships when caring for them impacts you. This does not lessen your love for them.
You cannot coach people who do not desire to change their current situation.
Personal responsibility is one of my biggest personal values.
It is not my burden to anticipate how others feel.
I do not need to feel bad about leaving a company; that company will survive without me. Employees are replaceable, and companies will survive. Employee loyalty rarely benefits the employee.
My worth is not defined by how much I work. I am an innately worthy human being.
Question any and all money advice.